Welcome! I’d Like to Introduce Yourself.

My compatriots, I already know you. 

You are smart and have been successful in your current life, but you have long wondered whether everyone feels “off” by a half step in their job or their social network… whether it’s “normal” to often experience your workplace as mildly to frantically uncomfortable for a host of sometimes difficult to articulate reasons… whether what they say is true, that work isn’t supposed to be fun, that’s why they pay you…

Basically, you feel dissatisfied, despite often achieving the goals you thought would bring you happiness.  This, my friends, is your starting point. And you are not crazy for feeling this way.  You are not crazy.

Actually, wherever you are today – mentally, emotionally, and, literally, where you are physically located on this planet – is your starting point.  And from this starting point, I’d like to introduce yourself – your true self.

Why do I think you two require an introduction? Well, please peruse this list of symptoms that indicate your true self is not currently the lead character in the story of your life:

• Your job depletes you.  It takes a weekend of doing nothing to begin to recharge from a week on the job. Social commitments on weeknights are taxing on you.  You might force yourself to go the gym like a dictator or you’re too tired to ever start the seemingly long road to getting back into shape. You’re just exhausted. It’s an energy crisis of Californian proportions.
• You get sick once or more each year. It might be that the stress in your life decreases your immune response, a la students during exam time. It might be that there was one particular time in your life that you picked up every little bug around. Or maybe your body delights in unveiling unusual problems – tendonitis, small benign cysts, mysterious infections - that require diagnose and often complex remedies.
• For the life of you, no matter the repetition or how hard you try, you cannot remember certain on-the-job information. Your mind refuses to retain the precise protocal for distributing packages or where that meeting was supposed to be or so-and-so’s name (still can’t remember!).
• You perform ‘stupid’ blunders on certain tasks or with certain people, and you know you are too smart to be making these careless mistakes: A missing subject in an important email, calling a lucrative prospective client by the wrong name – it’s mortifying and maddening.
• You regularly partake in large doses of mood-altering substances or activities (ex. alcohol, drugs, caffeine, sex, shopping, gambling).
• You experience moods you cannot explain.  One minute you’re positive you’re with the girl of your dreams, and the next you’re irritated by the way she chews her food.  At times, your emotional reactions are inappropriate in proportion for the present circumstances require.
• Your brain turns on at night when you need to sleep. Your body is exhausted but your thoughts are flying – finding solutions to problems you don’t even have, remembering your day, thinking about your to-do list and elaborate plans for things you never remember the next day.

Times when these signs appear frequently enough in your life that you call them “normal” are times when you are tolerating significant disconnect from your true self. Because your true self is not connected to the language center of your brain (except when very unexpected words or thoughts pop out of your mouth, like swearing in front of your minister when you actually don’t even usually swear at all, or answering honestly on a job interview that you hate the position, you just want the job for the money), your true self says “no” to you through these or similar symptoms of disconnect.

This blog and my work as a coach seek to restore your true self to the center of your every day life. When your true self is a person you know intimately and starts calling the shots regularly, not only will all of the above symptoms disappear, but your career will thrive, your health will be robust and your personal life will suit you to a “T”.

The myriad of tips and tasks fundamental to reconnecting to your true self and the necessary work to narrow who your true self really is, and the work you are meant to do in this world, are kept in the many posts to follow this one.

Wherever you are today, dear reader, right now is your very own, very special and perfect-for-you starting point to a better career – to your best life. I promise you that if you genuinely want to know your true self and live a fulfilling life and are ready to start the necessary work to get there, you will have all of this, and much, much more. Yourself awaits you, and you will be very pleased to finally make your acquaintance.