December 8th, 2009
What is the WORST possible thing that could happen?
It definitely will.
If you made a change in your life or at work, the absolute worst thing possible that could happen, for most people I ask, is some version of this:
FAILURE.
And guess what? That is definitely, absolutely going to happen.
So, here’s what we do about it:
We stop calling it failing. We start calling it playing.
When you were a kid, you were so freaking adorable. That picture from Halloween a million years ago? The cutest. You captivated the hearts of the American public.
And, you failed on an daily (hourly?) basis.
This thing we call failing? That is how you learned to walk. To talk. To read and write.
When you sounded out big words, you got them all kinds of wrong.
And you didn’t care — at all.
You fell off of the monkey bars. You forgot to grab the next rung with your right hand before letting go of the rung you held with your left.
Maybe you cried a little.
Then, you climbed back onto the monkey bars, and didn’t let go of the rung you held until after you grabbled the next one. Genius inspiration!
Consider channeling the wisdom you were born with, which we all lose along the way: that there is no “fail” — it’s all play.
How many times did J.T. fall down when importing the Costa Rican wood? At least a zillion.
Maybe two zill.
Because, as it turns out, in this crazy world, the worst thing that can happen is actually the best way to get where you want to go.
Falling down means increasingly building the muscles necessary to get back up.
You learned the monkey bars the same way you’ll learn to do your thing in your very special way: by trying, falling down, and trying again.
Cleaning out this mindset of trying something new means failing and replace it with falling down means part of playing.
This frees up your focus and energy so that the really fun and right stuff can finally find you.
And, so that you can find it.
December 4th, 2009
How was your week?
Checking in how it’s going each week is a the way to stay in the process of getting the thing you do out there, in the world, in the least scary way possible — and to relax yourself thin. And, just get to know yourself better.
I do this for myself (because all the stuff I tell you to do? I do, too) and you can do it for yourself, too, if you are so inclined. If not, just read along!
Hard stuff.
- Loads of hard this week for moi.
Big life changes from weeks gone by culminated this week — and it’s always just kind of hard. It reminds me that big changes mean I need some big down time and alone time.
- I hate not being able to fit it all in. Arghhhh.
Do I go to SXSW and Argentina in March? Do I offer 4 programs in the first 6 months of the year? Where in the world (literally) am I going to live?
Prioritizing is painful. Also, necessary. This is part of deciding — which is kind of the secret to life — and I’m just going to pick something.
Sleep, to me, is very important. Every night this week I’ve gotten just a few hours… I’m a broken lady. Everything is harder. I do careless things (give away my favorite jeans to Goodwill instead of the jeans I never wear…) and get a wee bit crabby.
Cool stuff.
- I like meeting new people (yes, I’m still saying this, for the thousandth time).
I’ve met some new ones lately in real life. I like meeting new people so much that it’s part of why I started doing this, where meeting new people regularly is a integral piece of what I do.
I get to meet new people, for a living.
She’s a lawyer and coach, just like me, and we always have an excellent time together. She’s a great supporter of me and I support her. We may partner on something in the future. Great friendship that could be work-ships = another reason why what I do is right for me.
I appreciate her friendship. She’s someone who really knows herself well, and everything in her life reflects this. What could be more worthy of respect?
She’s been self-employed much longer than I have, so she’s a tremendous resource and all-around great person to have in my corner. Don’t I know it.
- Not getting sick from liquid death.
My glass of wine was gross… but, then, the person I was with traded glasses with me… and got sick. I feel a bullet was taken for me.
- Seeing Susan! She’s awesome.
She’s my best friend from growing up. I think I’ve mentioned that she works nights at a hospital, and so I don’t get to see her much… but I saw her last night. So good.
You know those people that set you right? She’s one of them for me, for sure.
I had a friend over for a Redression Party. I will write about it next Tuesday.
That’s my week! I hope you had a great one, too.
Let me know in the comments:
- Advice you’ve been given that is ridiculous.
- One thing you did this week that you looooooved doing.
Until next week! Have a wonnnnnderful weekend.
December 2nd, 2009
Crazy thing happened last week.
I announced that I am doing my Take It All Off (or, Guerilla Weighi Loss Tactics) class, again, early in 2010.
I got quite a few questions!
Some people (my posse?) even discovered a secret waiting list for it (no longer secret — get on it if you’re interested in the class.)
Here are the appropriate-for-all-audiences questions, answered.
Answers: I have some.
Q. #1: To be honest, I just don’t believe you that, if I take your class, I will lose weight permanently. (including sub-questions)
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