Friday. #13: Get SHUCKED UP edition.
It’s that time of the week! Our checking in ritual.
Check out the explanatory metaphor about why we do rituals here.
And also, the hard stuff is the raw material for the cool stuff that happens in our lives. It’s annoying, but true. So, here, we attempt to not ignore the hard stuff, because that would mean a lot less cool stuff coming through.
So, we talk about it. And, think about it. And sometimes we even do something about it (but, we never have to).
Hard stuff.
This week I had not that much hard stuff, which is weird because February is usually a walking-through-quicksand hard month (dark; cold; Hallmark holiday). How refreshing!
Sometimes, not really being in control of anything (ever) feels hard.
Because we, none of us, are really in control of our lives. Sometimes this feels like a scary thought, that you’re not really in control of your career or where you end up. In a sense you are in control, because you can choose what you want in your life, and if you reallllllly mean it, that will happen — but in a much bigger sense, anything could happen, and that’s something you don’t get a say in.
Like how everyone at Lehman Bros. thought they had very safe, boring jobs until they were all fired. Stuff like that.
It can be scary, UNTIL you feel the relief of the fact that everything is not really up to you. There’s a flow to be gone with.
For instance: Doing what you love for a living is the ultimate “I’m not really in control” concession. Apparently, to succeed, you have to work really, really hard, but stay open to where the flow is.
It’s kind of like following a messy puppy that meanders around and doesn’t pay any attention to your itinerary for it.
You buy this soft, cozy dog bed for the puppy. But the puppy will not be sleeping there. Like when you plan for X to happen, and you try and try and try and it’s just not really happening! You throw up your hands! You shake your fist!
THEN, all of a sudden, angels come down from the heavens and something really cool happens that you never thought of.
It’s really cool to watch and that this is my life, but sometimes hard for me to stay loose with it and just allow it all to happen. You know what I mean?
I kind of need a place to live.
And I am not sure what this place will be like, where it will be located, or how I will find it (or how it will find me).
RED ALERT! New section.
Let’s peruse last week’s hard/cool stuff and see where we are at with some of it.
Creativity block. I had a major one last week about a program I thought I should do… but, somehow, another program happened from popular demand. So, that’s that! Works for me (for now).
Ultimate fighting! And, GOLF! Both waltzed into my life last week, both are awesome. Except, I somehow now have a GOLF COACH who wants me to go to the driving range 3 times a week. Officially, let’s make that 2 times, otherwise I’m not going to go at all.
Staying centered instead of REALLY EXCITED then. Withdrawn. I’m working on doing this, still. I think it might be the secret to the universe. I’ll let you know.
Cool stuff.
I am doing my oh-so-favorite class!!!
And, in just 2 days, it’s almost full!!! This class happened so organically.
Last summer, I noticed that people were telling me that I was “naturally thin” (soooooo not true). I thought,
I think my friends might like to hear how I worked through my food issues and preoccupations about weight and dropped down to my right size.
And, they did! And the info and interest has just grown from there. Read about it here. You can be one of the last 3 to get in! I’d so love to have you.
- Because, I want you to be happy. That’s the whole point of my job, that I have learned how to work through stuff so that you’re on track, and happy.
Which means that you don’t need to obsess over losing weight to be thin (in fact, obsessing is what is keeping you from losing weight… SO ANNOYING, right?!)
I made a new friend!
She is awesome. I was kind of needing to make a no-nonsense friend like her.
She has three kids under the age of 4 and talks about how she doesn’t even like one of them (I love that!). She isn’t trying to pretend she has it all together.
And that reminds me…. I’ll tell you a little secret: NO ONE HAS IT ALL TOGETHER.
If they say they do, they are hiding something and lying to you.
Valentines Day is so much fun stupid.
I mean, I would NEVER like a dumb, made up holiday like that!*
*I’ve always secretly liked it. Something that I’m embarrassed to admit! I like getting flowers and jewelry and my favorite chocolate (it’s cote d’or). I want to be taken to dinner and be asked to be your Valentine.
I’m learning more about how to do the business side of this thing I do… very helpful.
I’ve felt kind of stuck on the, how, exactly, do I do things like regularly put out a Noosletter that is interesting and helpful for you? I’m getting the hang of that more.
This is a real-life example of totally sucking at something, working on it for a year, and now being “mediocre”.
My goal for the next two months is to be “slightly above mediocre”. This is taking a lot of patience, which I wasn’t aware that I had. Also cool!
I’m going to the OysterFest, snow or shine.
Because their tag line is:
“are you read to get SHUCKED UP!”
(just like that, with ALL CAPS, and no question mark )
And that’s my cool stuff and hard stuff this week!
You are so welcome here anytime. I appreciate having you around (just been meaning to tell you).
In the comments:
- Tell me some hard things for you this week
- Tell me about the cool stuff, too.
- Throw out some awesomely terrible tag lines.
Have a great weekend! See you next week. Hugs and keeeeeses!
